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Three Of Satan’s Best (And Sneakiest) Tools

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If you’re anything like me, when you think of attacks from the enemy you’ll probably immediately think about the big and obvious ones:

  • Guilt
  • Depression
  • Insecurity
  • Anxiety
  • Doubt

I addition to those spiritual attacks, I believe that Satan, the master of disguise, does more harm with his less obvious attacks. I’ve listed three that I’ve experienced in my life:

  1. Pessimism - It’s so easy to only see the “cup half empty” side of things, isn’t it? I think this is exactly how Satan wants us to be. This way we remain hopeless, depressed, ungrateful, and ineffective. We focus on trivial circumstances of life and forget that we’re blessed and loved by the creator of the Earth and the father of our savior. We see the ding in our car instead of the fact that we HAVE a car (which, oh by the way, makes you RICH by the world’s standards).
  2. Negativity - I was sucked into this way of thinking for a very long time. I was negative about everyTHING and everyONE. Negativity is very infectious. Those closest to me were directly affected by my constant negativity. A negative person will quickly find themselves 1, alone, or 2, surrounded by equally negative people.
  3. Familiarity - Simply put, this is when we forget how God has blessed us and we treat his blessing as if they were ours from the beginning. His blessings begin to lose their original value to us. We forget how we prayed and prayed and begged God to give us that house, spouse, job, church home, or friendship. When we become too familiar with God’s blessings, we take on an attitude of “God owed me this.” This is evident when we begin to focus on and complain about things like a sore throat when we could instead by thank God for the ability to even speak!

We ALL fall victim to these three mentalities. I have and I bet you have too.

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Tony Romo Takes Homeless Man To Movies

An inspirational story:

The Dallas Morning News reported on Wednesday that the Cowboys quarterback took a homeless man to the movies recently.

The man, who goes by Doc, was outside a theater in in Dallas when a man came up and offered to pay his way to see a movie. Planning on passing out fliers for a consignment store across the street, Doc declined. But then he realized that he had just turned down Romo.

He ran across the street, asked for the day off and ran back to the theater. Romo and Doc ended up sitting together watching the movie “Role Model.” Doc told the newspaper that he informed Romo that he hadn’t showered in days.

“Don’t worry about that,” Romo said, according to the newspaper. “I’m used to locker rooms.”

“For me, it was a blessing,” Doc said. “It came at just the right time. It gave me some encouragement and faith in mankind. I just wanted to say thank you.”

This is challenging to me. I want to start doing more stuff like this. Awesome!

I can only wonder the thoughts that went through Doc’s head…

Read the full article here.

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Needing More Than Just God

When I submitted my life to Jesus, I did a holy house-cleaning:

  • Ditched my non-Christian friends (thank GOD they have since allowed me back into their lives)
  • Quit the bar scene
  • Cleaned up my language
  • Changed the music I listened to

I can easily recall the day I changed my ring tone from Pearl Jam - Yellow Ledbetter (what a jam!) to Enough - Chris Tomlin. The lyrics to the chorus are beautiful:

All of You is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with Your love
And all I have in You is more than enough

Three years and many ring tones later (currently rockin’ the theme to The Office), I question how many of those lyrics I actually believe.

You see, I BELIEVE that God is more than enough for me, but I don’t FEEL like God is more than enough for me.

This is precisely why my breakup with Tiff has been tougher on me than it should have been. I put a weight on her that she was never intended to carry (Matt Chandler quote). I counted on her to be my ultimate joy, my ultimate love, my ultimate fan…my ultimate.

That’s God’s role…not a girl’s.

But the concept of God being my ultimate is still a bit foreign to me.

So now I pray daily (in so many words):

God, I believe that you are more than enough for me, but I don’t feel it. Would you show me how true it actually is. YOU are my biggest fan. YOU love me more than ANY girl ever can/will. YOU are proud of me. You REALLY ARE all I need. I know that you love me, but I don’t know what that actually feels like. I struggle loving you as much as I should. I look at you as a disciplinarian whose only job in life is to correct me when I’m wrong. Would you teach me to love you more and show me who you REALLY are.

Like I said, I struggle even saying that he’s all I need, but I’m trusting that God is a big God who can change a simple dude like myself.

Yes, I’m very open, honest, and real in my prayers. Why wouldn’t I be? He already knows how I REALLY feel.

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A Bill Update

Perhaps this won’t be my most popular blog post ever, but here’s what’s been on my heart and mind as of late (if you care):

  • I’m currently learning a very important lesson: every circumstance is what I make it.
  • I have the the option and the ability to choose how I view and react to every circumstance.

The ball doesn’t always bounce in the direction that I expect (or want) it to. In James, the author writes, “WHENEVER (not if) trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for JOY. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to GROW. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be ready for ANYTHING.”

That’s awesome - ready for ANYTHING! Being joyous in times of trouble is SO opposite of how we’re trained to react, isn’t it? I’m learning that it IS possible, and that it DOES grow me. It’s quite the experience and a bit mind-bottling (Blades of Glory).

In Philippians 3:13, Paul writes, “I am focusing ALL my energies on this ONE thing: FORGETTING THE PAST and looking forward to what lies ahead.” In 4:6 he says, “Don’t worry about ANYTHING; instead, pray about EVERYTHING. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. IF YOU DO THIS you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.”

I have a tendency to live in the past. I dissect and dissect, lose sleep and have bad diarrhea (TMI?):

  • What could I have done differently?
  • What did I do wrong?
  • Why am I so selfish?
  • Why can’t I get it right?

Paul instructs me to FORGET about the past and look FORWARD! Tough, isn’t it? I’m claiming God’s promises that he wants to give me his ABSOLUTE BEST in life, and that, my friend, is freakin’ exciting!

Also, I can only control the decisions that I make. Therefore, there’s no reason for me to get all up in arms over other peoples’ decisions.

Every Christian knows that God can give us “a peace that passes all understanding.” But I just noticed that there are three stipulations:

  1. Don’t worry
  2. Pray
  3. Tell God what I need

THEN God will give me that peace - cool! I also find it interesting that we’re COMMANDED not to worry. Also cool!

Lastly, verses 8-9 of chapter 4 are my favorite: “Fix your thoughts on what is TRUE and HONORABLE and RIGHT. Think about things that are PURE and LOVELY and ADMIRABLE. Think about things that are EXCELLENT and WORTHY OF PRAISE. Keep putting into practice ALL you have learned from me and heard from me and saw me doing, and the God of peace will be with you.”

Thoughts are very very powerful and have the ability to change how we act/react.

Sry if that’s boring to you, but I’m fired up! Just a glimpse into my life ;-)

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Where Should We Give Our Resources?

Part of a heated discussion I had with an older coworker today:

Upon finding out that I’m studying to become a Physician Assistant, my never-shy colleague interrupted: “I never see PAs. I’m paying good money for that visit and the last thing I want is some nurse or PA to diagnose me. If I get stuck with a PA I ALWAYS ask for the doctor.”

I was quick to respond: “Well, you might not have to worry about me ever seeing as there is a good chance that I’ll end up working overseas in some sort of [free?] missionary clinic.”

The next 15-20 minutes were dedicated to my coworker telling me that I’m wrong for wanting to work in a overseas missions clinic when there are plenty of needy people right here in the United States.

She wasn’t quite sure what to say when I challenged her with this: “Well, how about this: while you’re busy helping the needy in THIS country (intentionally calling her out for NOT), I’ll help another country. That way we’ll be doubly effective!”

“I’ve been to Mexico! I’ve seen the slums of Costa Rica! I’ve seen the world’s needs,” she pleaded. I couldn’t help but chuckle as her comments reminded me of the clearly racist person who says, “I’m not a racist! I gave a speech on MLK in the 6th grade!”

“The United States doesn’t care about [some poor country] because there is no financial gain us,” she continued to argue.

“Well,” I responded, “fortunately we aren’t limited to caring about only the things/places that the United States cares about. We are free to give our time and money to any cause we find worthy.

“We should help our own country first,” she commented.

“I disagree. What makes us more valuable than people in other countries? What makes my life more important than that of the person in Kenya?”

We finally agreed to disagree. I ended the conversation thanking her for her comments. Just as the embrace of our hug was released, she got the last word:

“You’re young. You just don’t understand politics or our world.”

I remained silent and smiled. :-)

(also posted at the eBay atheist)

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My Prayers

Lord, I pray against the easy way; that I may be forced to rely on you throughout the challenge of the difficult road, the one less taken. I pray that I will grow to know you more and trust that you love me and want what’s best for me.

Please forgive me as I so often love to assume that I am smarter than you and act out of my own flawed intellect. I have a natural inclination to lean towards the easy way.

How great it will be to smile with joy in response to ANY situation that I might encounter as I prepare to be molded and shaped into your planned perfection.

Please forgive me as I tend to worry, overreact, question your presence, and become emotional.

I trust that you are my provider and the only and best comfort that I need.

Please forgive me as I tend to seek comfort in things/people of this world.

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Heaven Or Earth

I don’t get very excited when I think about heaven. Sometimes I actually get a little sad.

I love life on Earth.

I love succeeding and I love failing.

I love learning and I love teaching.

I love challenges and obstacles and I love overcoming them.

When I think about heaven, I envision a huge pipe organ, Birkenstock sandals, fluffy clouds, and little naked cupid angels.

I know I’m way off base, and I pray that God would drastically change the way I think.

Still though, there’s something so sweet about being an imperfect human, isn’t there?

There’s something so sweet about failing, picking yourself up and trying again…

And human emotion can be so incredibly warming to the soul.

What a great feeling it is to fall in love…

To watch someone grow up…

To watch them succeed…

And I hope there’s food in Heaven. Man, how I love to eat.

(written by Bill, not hoverFrog - working to fix this author issue)

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FriendlyChristian Cameo On eBay Atheist Site

Hey friends!

Check out my post on the eBay atheist site.

I hope you’re all doing great!

Do you wear jeans to church?

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Take Off Your Pants

It’s true - I wear my “cranky pants” from time to time. I don’t like to admit it, nor do I like to allow it, but I do have my cranky days just like you do.

It is my hope and my prayer that I am never defined by a bitter, angry, negative attitude.

A person cannot call herself a follower of Christ, the ultimate representation of love, and not love her brother/sister. It’s oxymoronic…like a jumbo shrimp…or a winning Detroit Lions team.

Our worldly circumstances are minor when we have a big picture perspective. Life isn’t that bad. It’s quite good, actually.

If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 1 John 4:20

…and in the words of the great theologians dc Talk, love is a verb.

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Did God Forget About Me?

When the going gets tough it is so flippin’ easy to ask:

  • Did I hear God right?
  • Do I have what it takes?
  • Am I even capable of doing this?
  • “Do you have the right person, God?”
  • “I thought I heard from you, God. Did you forget about me?”

And I am sure that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work, until it is finally finished. Philippians 1:6

  1. God began the work.
  2. The work is good.
  3. He will continue HIS work.
  4. He will finish what he started.

I hope that’s as encouraging to you as it is to me.

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