Date Night - Are You Pursued/Pursuing?
If I had a dollar for every time somebody has asked my to commit to a Thursday night event, I’d be wealthy enough to afford to pump gas into my car!
No matter how many times I remind my friends, they never seem to remember that my Thursday nights are not for sale. Thursday night I take my Tiffany on a date.
What my friends don’t realize is this:
I choose you, Tiffany. For the past two years we’ve spent just about every Thursday night together in celebration of date night. Know that I’m committed to this weekly event. Know that I’m committed to you. Know that I’m not going to let anything get in the way of my desire to pursue you, no matter how tempting the offer may be. Thursday nights are yours and only yours. I want my eyes to be fixed only on you. I want my ears to hear only the words coming out of your mouth.
I hope we can We will continue the tradition of date night for as long as we’re together. I promise to never let work get in the way of our relationship. I promise that, no matter how many children we may have (if that’s the road God leads us down), that you will always be number one. I want our kids (again, God willing) to see how much daddy loves mommy. I want them to see my dedication to you, and how I always put you before anything else (only second to God). You are more special than my job, my friends, and my circumstances. The least I can do is provide one night a week to remind you of this. Regardless of any potential comment on this blog, I stand by these words.
Guys, I challenge you to set aside one night a week to pursue your girl. Pursue her like you did before you were together. Make her feel special. Treat her like a princess. Plan the night. Open doors. Compliment her. Respect her. Tell her how beautiful she is. Take her to her favorite restaurant. Watch those girly movies that she likes. Touch her face. Hold her hand. Make her heart skip a beat.
Girls, simply put: you deserve to be pursued.
I love you, baby. I am a work in progress.
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28 Responses for "Date Night - Are You Pursued/Pursuing?"
one word….awwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!
and bill, you get five points.
Thanks a lot Bill. You know 10% percent of all men…ruin it for the rest of us!!!
I’m kidding of course. Way to go Bill…Thursday night used to be my “date night” too…But then we had our little baby boy…
I’ll need to to think of something though, because my wife deserves to be cherished as well!!!
Kristina,
Thanks for the points! I’m curious…do they count towards anything?
Jason,
Did I ruin it like that ONE GUY who likes to dance ruins it? That guy annoys me.
Bill:
That’s a perfect example of what I’m talking about!
Thanks for the support.
Jason
not really. They are just an expression I use when someone does something awesome.
Also, this guy from my church just asked her girlfriend to marry him. Get this. He takes her to the place where they first met (they were getting baptized on the SAME DAY) and he says “since this is the place where we both dedicate our lives to Christ, I wanted this to be the place where I dedicate my life to you.” and gives her the ring.
Um freaking awesome!
While I agree with your general sentiment that relationships need nurturing and we need to remember to pay special attention to our significant others, especially when life gets busy, I think this is pretty darn sexist, Bill. Both should pursue and both deserved to be pursued. I don’t know about you, but I’m not interested in being a relationship that is anything but a partnership between two equals and I think the Cinderella and the Prince scenarios are harmful, especially to girls.
I dream of and beg for date nights. Want to babysit, Bill?
writerdd,
As crazy as this might sound, in the end, the whole “pursued and being pursued” thing balances out. True Bill is “pursuing” Tiffany but she is giving something in return. It isn’t just he gives and she receives.
Actually back in the day (biblical times), the husband would make a toast saying that he would die for his wife and she said it back to him. Both dying for each other. If that’s not equality, I don’t know what is.
As for the whole “Cinderella and Prince” scenario being “harmful”, why to girls? Is it a weakness thing? Cause a woman can be strong if that’s what you are afraid of. Or are you thinking women will only wait for “Mr. Perfect” and then end up alone and miserable. Because no girl expects her boyfriend/fiance/husband to be “perfect” just “perfect” for her. Why should we have to settle? Plus, I don’t think Bill necessarily means we just sit on our butts and let men do all the work (and if I’m wrong Bill let me know).
You great, big softy. A mutual date night is a fine idea, whether it be annually, once a month, once a week or every day. Really though it is just an effort to shift perspective and refocus on what attracted you together.
For what it’s worth, I don’t like the ‘men pursue’ and ‘women are pursued’ stereotype either.
I’d rather say that both men and women need to prioritize their relationship in order for it to work.
Having said that, Bill, I’ve always found you to be as respectful towards me and other women who post or comment here as you are to men who post or comment. I appreciate that!
For the record, I think it’s critically important for both the man and the woman to pursue each other.
That’s reassuring to hear, Bill!
Thank you baby! I think you are right on track. You do an amazing job of making me feel special, and I am trying to do the same for you!
I love date night
BTW, I am probably more sexist than you are against girls, especially considering how much feminists bother me most of the time
Why do feminists bother you, Tiffany? Is it feminists or feminism?
Hoverfrog-
I should have phrased that better. It is feminism that I do not like not, feminists in general. And it is not the original idea of feminism but rather the ones who have taken it too far. Much like the same way I feel about the christian extremists.
Tiffany, how can the idea that “women are of equal value to men and should be treated as such” be taken too far?
If only it were that simple. Man, I’ve seen plenty of extreme feminists who are straight up man haters! At that point I can’t help but disagree that their only desire is equal rights.
They are extremists! Irrational and out of touch with reality. Of course, I’m sure they represent only a small percentage of feminists. The word feminist itself has such negative connotations nowadays. I wonder if it’s always been that way…?
Sry, I know that ? wasn’t directed at me. I couldn’t resist.
I am talking about the women that feel that they can’t trust men or will refuse to let men do anything for them because they can do it themselves. I am all for equal rights and women doing things for themselves but there is no reason that they shouldn’t be able to accept help or generosity. Once again, I am only talking about extremists. Some people may be completely fine with that way of thinking, but I disagree.
Yeah, OK we agree. There are some people who call themselves feminists who I think have gone off the deep end. I’m all for letting my husband mow the lawn …. and do the laundry!
I’m not sure I understand. Isn’t feminism simply an effort to redress the oppression, subjugation, or inequality of women? I can see how some people might take this too far and become militant about it but the idea is sound and reasonable to me. How far is too far though?
hov,
The real question is this: When the heck do you sleep??
hov, yes.
I think two things are going on:
1) Conservatives, particularly media pundits, make a habit of demonizing anyone they disagree with. Hence feminist, along with liberal, humanist, etc. are now considered “dirty words.”
2) A few vocal feminist extremists went off the deep end way back in the 1970s, and some people equate that with normal feminists, who really are just about actual equality. This was played up by 1, and some people who only listen to conservative media pundits like Rush Limbaugh, actually think what these idiots say is based on reality.
3) Some men are afraid of strong women and so they play up both 1 and 2 to protect their own position of power in society.
sorry, that was 3 things
Man, this is how I feel about Christianity. I feel like I’m a bad guy for being a Christian half of the time because I’m associated with a bunch of radical extremists (redundant?). I’m sure I speak on behalf of a large percentage of Christians.
Isn’t Christianity just about loving God and loving each other? Oh no, it’s all about picketing, boycotting, hating, judging, condemning, etc. So now I’m the bad guy.
Yes, Bill. It’s a shame that the extremists generate better ratings in the press. I think that ruins a lot of things for normal people.
Germaine Greer was one of those radical (perhaps not so radical) feminists of the 1970s. She advocated some very extreme ideas which I was horrified by initially. Ideas like enforced male sterilization until we men can show that we can act like responsible adults and become parents. Scary? Horrible? Unnecessary? The older I get the more I find myself agreeing with her.
Besides which, a radical idea may well lead to a comfortable middle ground when it is, at its core, reasonable. Making men take responsibility for contraception and child care as well as women is a good idea. Sterilizing us and testing us isn’t but suggesting it may well be a step to shaking up the status quo.
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