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I’ve come to realize that I don’t really like anybody…almost literally. In addition, there are very few people that I have honest, unforced respect for. I don’t like to admit this, nor do I want to admit this, but it’s true.
- “You” make me mad. I don’t understand why “You” make such terrible decisions. “You” let me down.
- Just when I think that “You” have your head screwed on tightly, “You” go and say/do that?
- “You” aggravate me. Is that really the best “You” can do?
- Worst of all, “You” call yourself a Christian? Give me a break!
I honestly feel like I make better decisions than “You.” I feel like I’m fine-tuning while you’re still making major, much needed adjustments.
I’m face-to-face with an enemy named Pride. As it stands, I’m losing badly. Also, I have a heart in need of some immediate attention.
Do you guys ever feel like this?
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Nope. Part of being perfect (like me) is the ability to pretend to be imperfect to make others feel better about themselves. :d
Seriously though your statements all defer ownership of your emotions to another.
For example:
“You don’t make me mad, I feel anger when I see you make bad decisions that you could avoid.”
“When you say something stupid it makes me feel annoyed”
“Your decisions don’t make sense to me, I feel that they could be improved”
These statements say the same thing but put the emphasis on you. They remove blame and pride from your comments and thoughts and allow you to see the implications behind your opinions.
curse… Bill has figured out that I suck
I know…ruined your day, didn’t it?
(sarcasm)
I have truly liked maybe 10 people in my 46 years on the planet.
I have hated 1 person but that eventually cooled to mild dislike, so I’m happy about that. Frankly, I find most people boring. And I don’t feel bad about this at all. That doesn’t mean I don’t try to do what little I can to make life better on the planet for every human, or that I’m a bad person. I just don’t need hundreds of friends. I accept myself for who I am and I don’t torture myself about it. Of course, I was in my 30s before I stumbled on to self acceptance and self love as a viable concept, and it required me to ditch Christianity. So that’s my story. I’m much happier now that I can accept that I am not perfect and it is impossible to be perfect because there is no such thing as perfection.
And thinking you’re smart is not pride. It’s normal human psychology. Almost everyone thinks they are smarter than average. So you’re normal! Have a party!
Bill, I know some Christians are quick to label this pride, but in my experience it could be something else.
I’ve heard we tend to be hardest on other people when they have ‘faults’ we struggle with in ourselves. That seems to be true, in my experience.
Do you think your disappointment with other people might reflect frustration in yourself that you don’t live up to your own standards?
Just asking…you seem like a ‘high standards for myself’ sort of person. Which isn’t necessarily bad but it can get in the way if you aren’t able to show yourself grace…
Helen…
I don’t feel like this is it. Typically I get mad at people who struggle in the areas that I have “mastered.” Mind the quotes.
Absolutely. There are very few (if any) days that I’m satisfied with my performance.
I’ve come to realize that my thoughts and actions are a reflection of my heart.
I’m definitely a “high standards for myself” person, which usually leads me to find fault in myself and not others.
- Others’ decisions are just that: others’, and I can’t control them, whether I agree with them or not. And if I can’t deal with others’ bad decisions and make the best of them, then that’s *my* fault.
- If someone else and I are at an impasse, I shouldn’t assume that that someone will make the first move to reconciliate, so I should take on that task myself. If we fail to reach an amiable agreement, than *I* have failed in *my* diplomacy.
Etc.
We have two very different, opposite sorts of pride, and neither extreme is healthy, methinks. We could both benefit from finding happy mediums.
… Hey! Hold the phone!
I thought you said you were raised Catholic, Bill? What the heck kind of Catholic are you if you can’t find a way to blame yourself for everything and feel really really guilty about it?
Ive never met someone Ive hated. Ive met people that frustrate me, but thats about it. Its usually just the people that do things that I dont that get on my nerves. Only twice in my life have I ever felt really angry at anything. Both times at a person that was making fun of me. I didnt do anything about it though. I almost punched both of them but held back cause I started to feel bad that I was going to punch them. Im a wimp. >_>
All.The.Time.
And responding to Helen:
Blast. I hate when I forget to close tags. The quotes in my previous comment are all screwed up, but I’m sure you guys can figure it out.